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What are the not so obvious signs of depression?

What are the not so obvious signs of depression?

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  1. Lack of energy is definitely the main one, being depressed is exhausting and we seldom have any energy at all which causes sign number 2;

    personal hygiene going out the window. Going days without bathing, brushing hair, brushing teeth, etc.

    A similar thing is house/bedroom tidiness, if plates and clothes are piling up, things generally just bring left wherever/not put away

    Some obvious ones are listening to sad music, not socialising or socialising a lot (whichever is out of character for the person) and secluding to one room.

    Always check on your family and friend and make sure they know you’re they’re if they want to talk or just have company x

  2. Inability to cope with making increasingly small decisions. Starts off with big stuff but it dwindles to being overwhelmed by the thought of having to decide what to have for dinner.

    I said to the doctor “I can’t cope with anything anymore and I think it’s making me depressed”. She said ” actually it’s likely your depression is causing you not to be able to cope with anything”.

  3. Numbness.

    Sometimes people think that depression makes you sad all the time but sometimes you just feel numb. You feel nothing. Nothing excites you. Nothing matters. You’re just *there*.

  4. Cheerfulness.

    If someone has been withdrawn and quiet and then is suddenly cheerful, please intervene and make sure they are okay. It sometimes means they’ve been struggling with a mortal decisions and the cheerfulness shows the decision has been made and the weight is lifted. They are cheerfully saying goodbye to folks.

  5. People with depression are willing to give a lot away. It can seem kind and charitable, but there is a threshold where it’s concerning. I’ve seen a lot of cases in which people give away their belongings before they commit suicide, and no one had a clue.

  6. When my friend is suffering with depression, his devoted cat never leaves his side.

    His cat will briefly use the litter box or grab a quick bite to eat, and then return instantly to “watch over him.”

    In a heartbeat, I can tell when I go to visit that he’s dealing with depression just by observing his cat’s behavior as furry buddy maintains steadfast vigil. (It seems as if the cat is intentionally trying to “heal” him of symptoms he’s attuned to.)

  7. When organizing your priorities becomes a struggle. When I’m feeling depressed, I tend to see all the little tasks I need to do as a massive block, and end up procrastinating more often than I would like.
    (Not unique to depression though, but feeling overwhelmed by little things can be a sign imo)

  8. I probably have a skewed idea of what obvious signs are, as I’ve spent so long obsessing over depression and it’s symptoms, treatments and causes. But, I feel like a lot of signs are fairly well known these days.

    The things I find that’s discussed the least are the acute “physical” symptoms. Not everyone gets them, but depression has been linked to all manner of aches and pains. Just general muscle aches and stiffness, constant headaches, fatigue that’s outright painful (like you’ve done moderate physical exercise all day), perpetual flu-like symptoms. There are so many of them.

    The other one is memory problems. Actually it just feels like your brain is running at 10% efficiency in general, but this is most obvious with memory. Shit just doesn’t stick, and retrieval of memory gets … spotty. Real spotty.

  9. I haven’t seen it listed yet: Anger.

    There is a great book by Dr. David Burns called “Feeling Good,” that encourages the reader to adapt to depressive moods through cognitive behavioral therapy. In it he describes depression as “an anger turned inwards.” Sometimes when we don’t know how to cope with our life’s circumstances we can set up maladaptive coping mechanisms like berating ourselves. This may have been taught to us by others, or maybe we just picked up on it somehow.
    To anyone experiencing depression I would urge you to pick up this book and/or work with a therapist on some of the techniques. What we say when we speak to ourselves is important and can have a big influence on our moods.

  10. Procrastination is a big one. Anything that can be delayed, will be. Sometimes not even opening the mail because it may bring about some other task. A real lack of mental energy.

  11. Exhaustion, people assume you’ve just worked a long day and youre tired, but really you can sleep for days and it would never make a dent

    Numbness, we don’t feel a whole lot, so maybe the half arsed reply you received about something, isn’t because we don’t care, it’s that, how am I supposed to feel?

    Quietness, people immediately assume introverted tendancies

    Boredom, nothing is interesting anymore, I used to be an artist, I haven’t painted in years.

    Loss of appetite, people don’t click to people not eating or not eating as often, it’s not until they see physical changes that they might click to loss of appetite

    Gain of appetite, a lot of people know that stress and comfort eating are a thing, but never do a lot to intervene, unlike starvation

    Hopelessness and helplessness, remind people you are there for them and that you love them.

    Having guilt ridden feelings, we don’t understand why we feel the way we feel until we learn. This correlates with eating habits and sleeping habits

    No motivation, sometimes perceived as lazy or “having a me day”, but really, I’ve have 13 “me days” in a row

    Difficulty making decisions. Depression is a chemical imbalance, and amongst the other stress and anxiety etc, it tends to cloud judgement, help us with suggesting decisions to make, but never decide for us

    Irritability, is your friend snapping a lot recently? At really little or mundane things? Maybe a passing comment made them blow up, we are stressed, anxious, tired, we are sorry

    Depression is a silent killer. If you feel like you know someone who may be suffering, please reassure them. Chemically imbalanced minds need to be recognised and helped, in any way possible. Sometimes a smile is all we need.

    Much love 🙂

  12. Needing distance.

    When I’m going through an uptick or a rough period, I get incredibly distant from the people around me. I am very much into my weekly routine, so it isn’t hard to notice when I break the routine because I’m struggling. The problem is that No one can tell I’m struggling because I do a great job of covering it up

  13. Your personal hygiene just vanishes. People think that’s just being dirty or “a soap dodger“ but actually it’s because your energy goes down and so you don’t feel like you are able to get up and go take a shower.

  14. I’ve been avoiding my family because I don’t feel okay, and at one point my mother told me that it wasn’t okay for me to sit in a room alone and isolate myself from my family, she stated that I had no reason to be anxious and that I wasn’t depressed. I don’t know what to say here, I eat once a day and it’s dinner because I have no way to avoid it, I hardly talk irl, I try to be positive when I see negetive emotion because I don’t want to show my less agreeable side to others, honestly what others don’t usually talk about is how often you’ll try to focus on another person’s issues to avoid your own…

  15. Not doing anything. Just, wanting to do something but not being able to or not being able to settle on something you want to do so you just end up sitting around all day and suddenly it’s 6pm.

  16. Things you used to like to do just don’t really seem worth the effort.

    Sure you could read a book or go for a walk or call a friend but why bother. Just turn on the TV and veg out all day.

    That mentality is a very strong sign of depression. The things that you were interested in you were interested in for a reason, and if the spark in your life has dimmed and you don’t have the energy to pursue them anymore, then you’re probably experiencing depression.

  17. Talking a lot about nihilism/how meaningless life is. It sounds like an intelligent and rational view of the world, but it can be used as a way to express deep despair and unhappiness.

  18. Laziness. Well, perceived laziness. It’s not that we don’t do anything, it’s that our anxiety is so paralyzing that it prevents us from being able to handle doing anything. That’s why when people are depressed they will often go days without showering, cleaning, doing homework, etc. it’s not because we don’t want to it’s because we can’t.

  19. – Lack of concentration (Zoning out in conversations and not being able to focus on work were things I noticed pretty quickly)
    – Weak emotions (less happiness sure but even sadness seems to go away. Personal experience: Family member passed away and I just had nothing in response.)
    – Messed up sleep schedule
    – Easily overwhelmed by things
    – Generally low energy

    That’s all that comes to mind 🙂

  20. Being a people pleaser. While this can have other causes such as trauma it often goes hand in hand with depression. Have a friend who will do nearly any favor you ask? Maybe a relative that always asks what you want for dinner and rarely opposes or contributes to the conversation? Know anyone who listens a lot but doesn’t seem to engage or if they do is almost always very agreeable? These could all be potential secondary signs of depression, even if they aren’t caused by it. I can think of no one who has experienced trauma who hasn’t struggled with depression on some level.

  21. For me it’s apologizing for my existence or just assuming I’m an annoyance to everyone.

    Texting or calling someone with a question and saying, “Sorry to bug you but…” or “I don’t mean to interrupt you, I’m sure you’re in the middle of something cool/important/fun.”

    Posting something on social media and then going back to delete it not long afterward because I figure people look at it and think I’m annoying/exhausting.

    Stepping aside for other people at the store — or just leaving altogether—instead of continuing to peruse what I was looking at because I’m just in everyone’s way, even though I purposely went to that store to find that thing.

    Turning down invitations to do stuff, not because I don’t want to go, but because I figure they probably just asked me out of obligation/politeness.

    The list goes on and on, but basically if someone *acts* like they’re a burden, **it’s because they think they are**. There’s a huge loss of self-confidence and self-worth that comes along with depression. I do all of these when I’m depressed, and they definitely let up when my mental health is a little better.

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